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Top tips for talking with your boss

 Jan. 2017

One of the most challenging areas of the workplace is communication. It can often make or break your career. What you say to your superiors shapes their impressions of you, and, in turn, can mean the difference between being promoted — or being overlooked. While not all bosses are the same when it comes to communication, there are some general dos and don’ts to keep in mind. Here are five of them:
     1.   Do share your ideas

If you have a suggestion for a process change or potential improvement, don’t be afraid to share it. Bosses appreciate employees with initiative and imagination, and they are almost always open to ways to help the business run better. You’ll stand out from the crowd as someone, who’s innovative and committed to the company’s success, two qualities that can significantly boost your career and your professional reputation.
2. Don’t wait until the last minute
In business, surprises are generally not appreciated. So when you have important news to share, whether it’s good or bad, don’t delay — let your boss know as soon as possible. Although it can be difficult to share unpleasant news, you can bet your boss would rather hear it sooner rather than later.
Alerting your boss to potential problems gives them a chance to react and hopefully defuse a situation before it escalates.
3 . Don’t talk badly about your co-workers
Rivalry and bad feelings occasionally happen within an office, but pointing fingers and laying blame on colleagues just makes a bad situation worse. Office politics can be difficult to navigate, but bringing your boss into it can often make a bad situation worse. If you’re having problems with a co-worker, try to address the situation yourself before escalating it to your superior. And if you simply must speak to your boss about it, describe the situation as objectively and dispassionately as possible, and avoid an emotionally charged discussion.

Knowing just the right thing to say in every situation is almost impossible. But following these general guidelines will hopefully help you feel more confident when communicating with your boss. Just remember: bosses are people, too, and almost everyone appreciates honesty, straightforwardness, and thoughtfulness.

WAYS TO KNOW THE CHILDREN BETTER

Dec. 2017

  1. Put away phone in their presence.
  2. Pay attention to  what they are saying
  3. Accept their opinions and point of view
  4. Engage in their conversations. Respect their age
  5. Look at them with respect
  6. Always praise them
  7. Share good news with them
  8. Speak well of their friends and loved ones to them
  9. Keep in remembrance the good things they did
  10. If they repeat a story, listen like it’s the first time they tell it
  11. Don’t bring up painful memories from the past
  12. Avoid side conversations in their presence
  13. Avoid raising your voice at them
  14. Keep them in your prayers as much as possible.
  15. Avoid seeming bored or tired of them in their presence
  16. Avoid laughing at their faults
  17. Choose your words carefully when speaking with them
  18. Make them your priority above anything and everything
  19. Give them the power of leadership when they are present
  20. Avoid cutting them off when they speak

 

Understanding School Counselor / Parent Connection 

01-Apr 2016 – 30-Apr 2016

All students can learn. A student who is troubled, however, cannot learn as easily. School counselors can help. Divorce, substance abuse, child abuse, poverty, violence and suicidal thoughts are among the social stressors placing numerous students at-risk of educational failure and dropping out of school. Early intervention is essential, and parents and guardians play a vital role. A guidance program that provides direct services and is directed by a professionally trained school counselor is a critical component of a school’s prevention efforts in the 21st century.

As a parent, your past experiences with a school counselor may be vastly different than what your child will have. Today school counselors are certified, specially trained mental health professionals who focus on prevention and wellness though a counseling program that meets the needs of all students, not just a few. The counseling program addresses three areas: academic, career and personal/social. School counselors advocate, mediate, coordinate, consult, lead and collaborate with teachers, administrators and parents to help students be successful. Professional school counselors also help children to understand themselves.

But just what do school counselors do? Today’s school counselors:

• Develop a guidance plan based on a campus needs assessment
• Counsel students individually and/or in groups
• Provide systematic and developmental classroom guidance to all students
• Respond to student needs in crisis situations
• Orient students to new school settings
• Work with absentees, potential dropouts and other at-risk students
• Refer students to special programs and/or services when necessary
• Analyze test results to provide information about abilities, achievement, interests and needs
• Help with individual school, college, and career plans; coordinate school-to-work initiatives and with post-secondary institutions
• Coordinate efforts with other school specialists
• Conduct conferences with parents and facilitate parent discussion groups
• Coordinate staff support activities
• Adhere to ethical and legal standards
• Pursue continuous professional growth and development
• Conduct an annual evaluation of the guidance program

All of these activities and duties can make a real difference in students lives, improving their self-understanding and self-confidence, motivation, decision-making, goal-setting, planning and problem solving, interpersonal relationships, communication skills, respect for others and more.

Contacting the School Counselor
Parents contact a school counselor to help their children with a variety of issues, such as academic achievement; new school registration, orientation and transition; test interpretation; special needs; student crisis situations; family transitions; and higher education issues.

When contacting a school counselor, parents often have many obstacles to overcome, such as culture, language, their own bad experiences in school, a lack of understanding or feeling intimidated. Some parents may feel if they speak up and disagree with educators, their child will have a harder time at school. Work schedules can also be barriers to meeting with your child’s school counselor. However, school encourage parental involvement, and the school counselor is the primary contact for many parents in connecting with the school.

By focusing on parents’ concerns and respecting why these concerns matter to you, school counselors offer options, including better ways to communicate with your child. Both parents and counselors share information, an important part of establishing a helping relationship. School counselors are excellent resources; however, they do not provide therapy or long-term counseling. Referrals to outside agencies may be initiated at school. School counselors are also advocates for children and provide information on parents’ rights, such as the right to request information.

Following are some questions you might want to ask your child’s school counselor:

• How is my child doing in school?
• What are my child’s strengths and weaknesses?
• Are there any areas of concerns or delayed development?
• What are my child’s goals for this year?
• What are some suggestions for action at home?
• What programs are available to help my child to do better?
• Does my child get along well with adults?
• Does my child get along well with his/her peers?
• What can I do to improve discipline at home?
• Are there ways I can improve communication with my child?
• What can I expect after a change in the family (death, divorce, illness, financial status, moving)?
• If my child is (running away from home, being disrespectful, having other problems), what should I do?
• What resources are available at school?
• What resources are available outside of school?
• What do I need to do to prepare my child for college admission?
• What are the best resources for information on financial assistance and scholarships?
• What do I do? My child is (sad, not sleeping, not eating, overeating, has temper tantrums, etc.)
• What do I do if I don’t like my child’s friends?

Studies have shown that children have greater academic achievement when their parents are involved in their education. Motivation, positive attitudes about self and sense of control over their environment improve with parental involvement in the schools. Children from minority and low-income families benefit the most from parental involvement.

You, the parent, are the most important resource for the school counselor and others. Your involvement is critical in helping your child to be successful. Ask the school counselor how you can be more involved in what is happening with your child’s education.

- Brenda Melton, M.Ed., LPC, is a school counselor at Navarro Academy, an alternative school in San Antonio, Texas, and a former board president of the American School Counselor Association.

02 Nov 2015 – 08 Nov 2015

Safe Touch ——–

Being parent, we just wish that there was no word as danger in the world for our children, but we know it is not possible. So, we should either keep  our kids away from danger or make them ready to face it. Again the former is only possible if we restrict our child at home, which consequently would stop their growth.

If you want yourself to be a good parent, you should make your child prepared for this world in each and every possible way. Shutting our eyes doesn’t infer that the problem is not there. It just means that we refuse to deal with it.

Those uncles with whom we know everything will go just fine or that neighbor who takes care of our child in our absence, how are we so sure that nothing bad is going to happen? Do you know that statistics prove that more than 70% of the times, the assaulter is a well-known person to the child.

Are you comfortable that you have a son and he is not the potential target? You need to wake up, as the boys are as vulnerable as girls in getting harassed.

Our child should be imparted sufficient knowledge to actually not feel guilty about it and have the confidence to share it with the right person. The world is a beautiful place but we all know that bad exists with good. There are people who are mentally sick. The problem here is no one can look at a person and say that there is something wrong with him and my child is not safe with this person. It’s always better to be safe than be sorry later on.

If you haven’t yet started, begin it today. Talk to your children about the problem of this world and talk in their language. Some tips to get you started:

  • Introduce them to the dangers of this world and then move to this particular area.
  • Tell them the ‘Must say NO areas’, which are a strict NO. No one could or should touch you anywhere you feel uncomfortable. These areas are the chest, the area between your legs and your bottom .If you have difficulty in explaining it to your kid, show them picture and tell them to make sure no one touches them there.
  • Please make sure that the kids understand that any touch which feels uncomfortable or leaves them confused needs to be discussed with you. Make them comfortable with it. Tell them, it is not and never going to be their fault if a person touches them in the inappropriate places or ways.
  • Teach them how to shout NO. If a bad touch happens they should repeat No and run away from the place as fast as possible.

Somehow we have been conveying this message to our kids, that saying ‘No’ is not a good thing. You should listen to adults and do what they ask you to do. We need to make them understand that sometimes you need to say ‘No’ and stick to it. Mom is not going to be upset if she finds out about your ‘No’, in fact she is going to be proud of you.

They should identify a ‘Safe Adult’, someone with whom they are able to communicate and feel safe. If they face any such circumstance, they should find their safe adult and share the experience with them.

Children take secrets too seriously, they seldom break them. Make them understand the difference between a good secret and a bad one. Any secret, which makes you uncomfortable or sad, needs to be only shared with your safe adult.

As a parent, see the signs. Children are like flowers, you can see them withering if tamper.

27 Apr 2015 – 26 May 2015

Safe Touch ——–

Being parent, we just wish that there was no word as danger in the world for our children, but we know it is not possible. So, we should either keep  our kids away from danger or make them ready to face it. Again the former is only possible if we restrict our child at home, which consequently would stop their growth.

If you want yourself to be a good parent, you should make your child prepared for this world in each and every possible way. Shutting our eyes doesn’t infer that the problem is not there. It just means that we refuse to deal with it.

Those uncles with whom we know everything will go just fine or that neighbor who takes care of our child in our absence, how are we so sure that nothing bad is going to happen? Do you know that statistics prove that more than 70% of the times, the assaulter is a well-known person to the child.

Are you comfortable that you have a son and he is not the potential target? You need to wake up, as the boys are as vulnerable as girls in getting harassed.

Our child should be imparted sufficient knowledge to actually not feel guilty about it and have the confidence to share it with the right person. The world is a beautiful place but we all know that bad exists with good. There are people who are mentally sick. The problem here is no one can look at a person and say that there is something wrong with him and my child is not safe with this person. It’s always better to be safe than be sorry later on.

If you haven’t yet started, begin it today. Talk to your children about the problem of this world and talk in their language. Some tips to get you started:

  • Introduce them to the dangers of this world and then move to this particular area.
  • Tell them the ‘Must say NO areas’, which are a strict NO. No one could or should touch you anywhere you feel uncomfortable. These areas are the chest, the area between your legs and your bottom .If you have difficulty in explaining it to your kid, show them picture and tell them to make sure no one touches them there.
  • Please make sure that the kids understand that any touch which feels uncomfortable or leaves them confused needs to be discussed with you. Make them comfortable with it. Tell them, it is not and never going to be their fault if a person touches them in the inappropriate places or ways.
  • Teach them how to shout NO. If a bad touch happens they should repeat No and run away from the place as fast as possible.

Somehow we have been conveying this message to our kids, that saying ‘No’ is not a good thing. You should listen to adults and do what they ask you to do. We need to make them understand that sometimes you need to say ‘No’ and stick to it. Mom is not going to be upset if she finds out about your ‘No’, in fact she is going to be proud of you.

They should identify a ‘Safe Adult’, someone with whom they are able to communicate and feel safe. If they face any such circumstance, they should find their safe adult and share the experience with them.

Children take secrets too seriously, they seldom break them. Make them understand the difference between a good secret and a bad one. Any secret, which makes you uncomfortable or sad, needs to be only shared with your safe adult.

As a parent, see the signs. Children are like flowers, you can see them withering if tamper.

22 Mar 2015 – 28 Mar 2015

Importance of Play

Education plays a very important role in every child’s life. All parents tend to dream big for their children, especially when it comes to their future career plans. Every parent wants his or her child to become a doctor, engineer, or manager in a multinational company. This parental pressure and cutthroat competition tends to get the child overburdened with academic activities to such an extent that he does not get any time to play or engage himself in leisure activities. Even the schools keep the children perpetually busy by giving them extra homework to be done on holidays .

Children thrive upon play.  As a toddler, we mimic our parents, our siblings, our pets, the television, and many other significant participants in our lives.  As a child, we are in a perpetual learning curve, constantly seeking to be stimulated.  Fostering a need for such stimulation begins within the home.  As parents, we are the consummate role model.  We are the creative instigator of their developing minds.  As parents we are often caught in the hustle and bustle of the importance of our own lives.  In general, our society has become plagued with an unrelenting motion of doing, rarely giving way to kindness or compassion or living life to its fullest.

When was the last time you actively exercised your creative mind?  When was the last time you allowed yourself to imagine as a child does? As adults, we are told that we are to “to put away the childish ways of life.”

Creativity is the freest form of self-expression and, for children, the creative process is more important than the finished product. There is nothing more fulfilling for children than to be able to express them freely. The ability to be creative can do much to nurture your children’s emotional health. All children need to be creative is the freedom to commit themselves to the effort and make whatever activity they are doing their own. This teaches them to represent things symbolically and to consciously modify their behaviour. Games encourage them to develop their power of imagination and to understand the practicalities of life. They also learn to step into other people’s shoes, so as to see things from their point of view also and to cater to their needs

Group games allow children to learn the values of team spirit. They encourage them to cooperate with other members of the team, follow rules, play fair, and develop a sense of discipline. These games prepare the children to face negative situations in life, teaching them to accept defeat sportingly, whilst never giving up hope because there will always be another opportunity to win in the future.

Nowadays, new technologies like video games, television, and computers have occupied the free time of children. These do not help in their overall development. In fact, they have a negative impact on children’s minds because many games or shows are inappropriate for them and impart the wrong set of values in them. Many studies have shown that children who play games which have a lot of violence in them tend to be more aggressive and short tempered. Parents should first find out whether their child is capable of distinguishing between fantasy and reality, so that he does not land up getting so immersed in one particular kind of activity that he neglects other important aspects of his life. Children can inspire the child within us!

Make your children the point-of-interest; avoid playing games whereby your child is not the center of your attention.  Avoid playing video games or some other electronic devices that may detract from your play time.

Be interactive, communicating your ambitions, goals, and desires for play.  Give your child the reigns to this playtime.  Do not detract by saying, “well this is how the game is played Children who are not granted the right to be imaginative is less likely:  to develop friendships based on social play or to play on their own. When children are not provided the benefits of imagination, they are more likely to be at odds with the personal application of self-soothing and self-comforting.   Children who have a healthy imagination have greater chances of handling stress induced environments.

“Kids can become overwhelmed by their emotions but by using their imaginations, they can master their feelings. If a child is afraid of a monster, he can make up a story about hunting down the monster and scaring it and turning it into something else. He’s found a way to transform it.” (Mandell, 2012, Online)

BENEFITS OF CHILD – PARENT PLAY

Research has shown that parents who are actively involved in playful dynamics have a higher likelihood of establishing a positive relationship with their child.  Moreover, the benefits of play for a child are countless, Play enables children to find out about themselves and the world. It allows them to: discover, experiment, create, concentrate, express ideas, develop speech, develop muscles, invent, · learn new skills, learn how other people behave, role-play (pretend to be someone else),· share possessions, use the imagination, co-operate with others, show off (children like to let others know what they can do)  act protectively towards someone less powerful than themselves.

1.  Social appropriateness and interaction

2.  Personal awareness

3.  Increased awareness of social correctness and skills

4.  A boost to a child’s self-esteem, self-worth, and value

5.  Is a building block for a child’s imagination

6.  Increased emotional tolerance and readiness for life

7.  Children have an increased awareness of their surroundings

8.  Increased abstract reasoning

Allow your child’s imagination to be front-and-center.  When a child is allowed the freedom to be imaginative, they are encouraged to contextually think “outside the box.”  Research has shown that a child, who is granted the freedom of imagination, has a higher probability of being emotionally and cognitively expressive. The benefits for the parent – child relationship are unity.   In an age that we are frequently overworked, underpaid, and stressed; play decreases our anxieties, our negative thinking, while increasing our own imagination.   Therefore, if we intentionally make play a habitual act in our own lives, then we have a higher likelihood of being free of our worldly discomforts.

Play is not the only catalyst of good health, but play along with mental and physical care will increase our chances of living a fulfilled life.   In all things, remind your children that you love them unconditionally.

Happy Parenting!!

08 Feb 2015 – 21 Feb 2015

7 Steps to Better Sleep

 Snoozing atleast for eight hours!. If only we could master it, we’d be healthier, happier, calmer, sharper, and generally all-round better versions of our usual groggy, yawning, puffy-eyes selves. There are many people suffering from sleep disorder. and it is directly damaging their health. Research suggests that long-term bad sleep can damage health, while in the short-term, our immune systems suffer and it leaves us zapped, irritable and unable to concentrate.

Poor sleep among people living in the world is often caused by many factors like obesity, obstructive sleep apnea, stress, shift work, jet lag, exams or relationship breakdowns, or after trauma, grief, physical illness or pain, it’s normal for sleep to suffer and insomnia can become a chronic problem for some.

If insomnia does become chronic, speaking to doctor is important. Aside from medicines, therapies like counseling and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can be effective. But if poor sleep is simply a niggling problem you could really do without, here are some simple steps you can take to help.

1.)      Put Stress on Rest

Bad sleepers are often trapped in a worry cycle. The thought of a sleepless night might create an anxiety in you which in return give you lot of stress. Also, lying in bed worrying about the day’s events or things that might happen in the future is not going to help

Do some stress relieving activities like physical workouts , reading , drinking water , laugh therapies , talking your heart out , etc and also write a to-do list for the next day at bedtime..

It is advisable to keep a writing pad along your bed so that you can pen down any worries which come on sleep mode. They’ll be out of your head and can be dealt with in the morning.

2.)      Create an atmosphere of sleep

Your surroundings have a big impact on your mind and thoughts, so make the place you sleep a serene place and a peaceful retreat. Just like we don’t like a cluttered place our sleep also doesn’t like a cluttered mind. Clear your bedroom of all technology in order for a good night’s sleep, which means no computers or TV. Your etc work and books or other things which don’t have a use at that time would be either covered or in a shelf. If you lack space, make spaces in other ways, for example a white sheet over your desk area buying portable wards, etc.

3.)      Are You having Comfortable bed?

We’re sensitive social creatures, and even the smallest psychological reasons can have our brain and body chemistry churning away, which is why physical comfort is vital for sleep.

Good bed tools like structure of the  bed, mattresses, cushions comforters etc can be pricey, but we spend almost half our lives in bed, so it’s definitely worth investing in one that offers you the right support and prevents back and neck pain. The calculations show that people are on the bed almost 8 hours every day so they are spending almost 30% of their day resting or sleeping on bed. Annually they are spending roughly 3000 hrs, so uncomfortable bed settings can also disrupt your sleep.

4.)      Minimum Light – No Noise

Everything has a reason, so as even switching off lights at bedtime. Sleeping in darkness is crucial for the body’s production of the hormone melatonin, which plays a vital part in the sleep-wake cycle. If there are no curtains or improper fittings of the curtains, there may not be proper blackouts so people tend to wake up earlier due to the light. Also if the AC is noisy or if there is any other sources of noise, it can affect your sleep and of course a room that is too hot or too cold due to improper adjustment of the room temperature can disturb sleep.

5.)      TURN OFF YOUR GADGETS 

Laptops, Desktops, I pads, smart phones do us no favours when it comes to sleep – because many of us don’t know when to switch off. A recent survey by sleeping pill brand Nytol found that 53 per cent of the people questioned admitted to going online in bed, with a quarter thinking they’re addicted to checking mails and social media in bed.

Every time you see a message light flickering on you gadget, brain produces a small dollop of dopamine – the feel-good hormone. This wakens us. Makes us feel good, albeit momentarily, and is partly what feeds the compulsion to keep picking up your phone. It’s essential to turn off all technology; many people with sleep problems have an unhealthy relationship with technology

6.)      DON”T PANIC IF YOU WAKE UP

This happens to everyone. Suddenly, at around 3 am we get up with a panic either with a dream or something going out in our mind related to the next day’s challenge. If you wake up, avoid looking up the phone or clock and register the time as you most likely will think that how little you have slept. Instead. lie coolly, have some sips of water. Breathe deeply and tell yourself that its quite normal if you don’t fall asleep again. Keep lying and start concentrating on your heart beats taking long breaths and finally closing your eyes. You can also have a sweet small smile on your face and tell yourself, that you might fall asleep again.

7.)      WATCH WHAT YOU EAT AND DRINK

What and when we eat and drink can affect sleep. Eliminate stimulates like caffeine and sugar before bedtime, You may have a  glass of warm milk or a cup of chamomile tea with honey at bedtime to induce sleep. Take your evening meal earlier and have a good walk after that. A heavy meal will make the digestion difficult in night.

01 Feb 2015 – 07 Feb 2015

THE TEN SUCCESS RULES TO FOLLOW.

1. Get and stay out of your comfort zone.
“Believe that not much happens of any significance when we’re in our comfort zone.  I hear people say, ‘But I’m concerned about security.’  My response to that is simple: ‘Security is for cadavers.’ ”

  1.  Never give up.

“Almost nothing works the first time it’s attempted.  Just because what you’re doing does not seem to be working, doesn’t mean it won’t work.  It just means that it might not work the way you’re doing it.  If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn’t have an opportunity.”
3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think.

“There’s an old Chinese saying that I just love, and I believe it is so true.  It goes like this: ‘The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.’ ”

4. Always be moving forward.

“Never stop investing.  Never stop improving.  Never stop doing something new.  The moment you stop improving your organization, it starts to die.  Make it your goal to be better each and every day, in some small way.  Remember the Japanese concept of Kaizen.  Small daily improvements eventually result in huge advantages.”

5. Be quick to decide.

“Remember what General George S. Patton said: ‘A good plan violently executed today is far and away better than a perfect plan tomorrow.’ ”

6. Measure everything of significance.

“I swear this is true.  Anything that is measured and watched, improves.”

  1. Anything that is not managed will deteriorate.

“If you want to uncover problems you don’t know about, take a few moments and look closely at the areas you haven’t examined for a while.  I guarantee you problems will be there.”

8. Never expect life to be fair.

“Life isn’t fair.  You make your own breaks.  You’ll be doing good if the only meaning fair has to you, is something that you pay when you get on a bus (i.e., fare).”

9. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

“Lighten up.  Often, at least half of what we accomplish is due to luck. None of us are in control as much as we like to think we are.”

10. There’s always a reason to smile.

“Find it.  After all, you’re really lucky just to be alive.  Life is short.  ‘We’re not here for a long time, we’re here for a good time!’ ”

25 Jan 2015 – 31 Jan 2015

THE TEN SUCCESS RULES TO FOLLOW.

1 – Get and stay out of your comfort zone.
“Believe that not much happens of any significance when we’re in our comfort zone.  I hear people say, ‘But I’m concerned about security.’  My response to that is simple: ‘Security is for cadavers.’ ”

  1.  Never give up.

“Almost nothing works the first time it’s attempted.  Just because what you’re doing does not seem to be working, doesn’t mean it won’t work.  It just means that it might not work the way you’re doing it.  If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn’t have an opportunity.”
3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think.

“There’s an old Chinese saying that I just love, and I believe it is so true.  It goes like this: ‘The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.’ ”

4 – Always be moving forward.

“Never stop investing.  Never stop improving.  Never stop doing something new.  The moment you stop improving your organization, it starts to die.  Make it your goal to be better each and every day, in some small way.  Remember the Japanese concept of Kaizen.  Small daily improvements eventually result in huge advantages.”

5. Be quick to decide.

“Remember what General George S. Patton said: ‘A good plan violently executed today is far and away better than a perfect plan tomorrow.’ ”

6. Measure everything of significance.

“I swear this is true.  Anything that is measured and watched, improves.”

  1. Anything that is not managed will deteriorate.

“If you want to uncover problems you don’t know about, take a few moments and look closely at the areas you haven’t examined for a while.  I guarantee you problems will be there.”

8 – Never expect life to be fair.

“Life isn’t fair.  You make your own breaks.  You’ll be doing good if the only meaning fair has to you, is something that you pay when you get on a bus (i.e., fare).”

9 – Don’t take yourself too seriously.

“Lighten up.  Often, at least half of what we accomplish is due to luck. None of us are in control as much as we like to think we are.”

10 – There’s always a reason to smile.

“Find it.  After all, you’re really lucky just to be alive.  Life is short.  ‘We’re not here for a long time, we’re here for a good time!’ ”

18 Jan 2015 – 24 Jan 2015

OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), characterized by the presence of obsessions and /or compulsions, is prevalent in more than one percent of the population worldwide, and can have an onset at any time starting from preschool to adulthood.

SYMPTOMS

Obsessions

  1. Thoughts, images or urges that occur again and again, and feel out of the person’s control.
  2. The person does not want to have these ideas and finds them disturbing, usually realizing that they don’t make sense.
  3. They make the person feel uncomfortable, bringing a feeling of fear, disgust, doubt or a feeling that things have to be done in a way that is just right.

Compulsions

  1. Repetitive behavior or thoughts that a person engages in to neutralize, counteract or make his/her obsessions go away.
  2.  They rely on a compulsion as a temporary escape.
  3. They try to avoid situations that trigger their obsessions.

These obsessions and/ or compulsions take a lot of time (more than 1 hr per day) and get in the way of important activities the person values (socializing, working, going to school, etc).

Common Obsessions

Contamination and dirtiness

  1. Harm (to self or others)
  2. Perfectionism
  3. Losing control
  4. Unwanted sexual thoughts
  5. Religious obsessions
  6. Concern about physical health
  7. Superstitious ideas

Common Compulsions

  1. Washing & cleaning
  2. Checking
  3. Repeating actions
  4. Mental compulsions (counting, praying, etc)
  5. Hoarding or collecting
  6. Ordering, arranging or setting things
  7. Telling or asking for reassurance

SYMPTOMS OF OCD

  1. A person begins to avoid activities or situations previously regular with.
  2. S/he spends much more time than usual on his routine or daily activities.
  3. The individual is excessively involved in his/her own activities or thoughts, to the exclusion of others.
  4. The individual finds it difficult to concentrate on work or other activities.

CAUSES

There is no single factor that can solely be implicated in the causation of depression. Genetic, biological and psychosocial factors all have a strong role to play in the etiology of the illness, combining in various ways leading to its precipitation. While there is evidence of a strong genetic component associated with obsessive compulsive disorder, as it often seems to run in the families, biologically, serotonin is one of the mail neurotransmitters that is implicated in its causation. Many psychological social stressors could also serve as triggers.

TREATMENT

With mounting evidence that OCD is largely determined by biological factors, pharmacotherapy, behavior therapy, or a combination of both has been found to be effective in significantly reducing the symptoms of patients with OCD.

SEEKING HELP

OCD is treatable illness and professional help is irreplaceable. It is important to spread awareness about the disorder so that identification and treatment becomes easier. It is imperative to encourage a supportive environment for identification and adequate psychiatric and psychological intervention.